Prayer Request

I have no idea how to say this but I will come out and say this. I some times will look at photos that are inappropriate. I believe in my Lord Jesus Christ and this is an area that I struggle in. I am also going through a divorce,my ex actually would tell me to look at those things when I would want to make love with her but she didn't want me near her or touch her, so she would tell me to look at those things and take care of myself. So I am asking for prayer in this area. Thank you.

I am sorry to hear about your divorce. It is never easy...and for Christian men, even harder because of the struggle knowing what God says about divorce. My husband (roaming around in here somewhere under the name JeeperX) went through a divorce and the faith aspect was the hardest part for him. But...and maybe I feel this way because I want his heart to have peace....I also believe God does not want marriages to be conducted the way some are either. (I think maybe sometime you and he can chat privately about similar experiences...you are not alone!)

As for the other issue. I believe that particular addiction is VERY real, is damaging to the person addicted, as well as the people around them. It consumes everything. I had been with someone for a long time with a severe [broke up his first marriage and children] addiction to pornography. It killed our relationship too. I know he was at a point where he just could not help it anymore and at the time I wasn't a Christian, so I certainly could not witness to him or even had the sense to try to get him to get help. I helped myself by removing myself from the situation. One that got harder and harder to stay in over time. With an addiction like that, things have to escalate in your 'real life' to be satisfying. But escalate to unsafe and unhealthy [even emotionally damaging] things.

I don't know what to say as far as quoting the bible to make you head on the right path....but I CAN tell you, PLEASE please please love YOURSELF enough to get help...not to mention the people around you that love you, and the people in your future, yet to have the pleasure of meeting you. And most of all, even if you try and fall down over and over again....remember God loves you...you aren't now, nor will you ever be, 'too far away' from Him for Him to love & accept you.

Welcome and we hope you stick around!


~Pattey

That is a tough issue, and not an uncommon one.

There is a men's ministry in my area that I have been involved with at times. One of their programs is a telephone prayer session (generally every other Monday evening) addressed to sexual addicition issues (including viewiing inappropriate images). Here is a link to their website. http://www.legacymindedmen.org/ The call is Breaking the Chains, and a person can just listen in if they desire, or they can particpate anonymously. I know it is a cross-country call for you, but if your telephone plan does not have extra charges for long distance you may want to check it out. This is a group of very understanding, helpful, and well trained Christian men who are excellent at counselling on such issue.

k_enn